Funny thing -- the initial exchange between us at bloodclaim was very minor. It hardly constituted a conflict, never mind a kerfuffle. I made a suggestion about how authors in general might receive remarks like the one you made (because I thought that as a reader, you might rather wish to encourage authors than inadverdently leave a comment that would cause them to feel disheartened). You disagreed (so now I understand that this was not the case). Finaly, the moderator asked us both to leave aside the issue on that forum.
All minor stuff, an exchange between two people featuring a civil disagreement that the moderator just happened to see and forestall before it became more involved.
However, you've certainly upped the ante by sending a public messge to me via m-mslashaholics, and by posting this rant which replicates the email. Those actions, in addition to your judgements here about (among other things) which authors are allowed to take time away from their stories and which are not, is what is fueling the discussion now taking place.
I probably don't need to point out to you the irony that your email took issue with the fact that my suggestion came to you in a public forum (an entry in all likelihood seen only by the small number of members who chose to click the initial fic search) when your email to me went out automatically to the nearly 700 members of m-mslahsaholics. But in case I do, there it is.
Incidentally, you may find it helpful to know that not everyone gets mailings from Yahoo groups of which they are members. I have many of my groups (including m-m slash) set to "no mail" and check messages only on occasion at the website. So really, your message would not have reached me at all (particularly as you did not send it to me individually at any point), had not several people who got your publically-sent email pointed out that you addressed me and this issue on list.
Though I now know you're not amenable to suggestions in these cases, I'll suggest nonetheless that you contact the moderator of m-mslashaholics and request the removal of both your initial email msg and your ensuing apology to the entire list.
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All minor stuff, an exchange between two people featuring a civil disagreement that the moderator just happened to see and forestall before it became more involved.
However, you've certainly upped the ante by sending a public messge to me via m-mslashaholics, and by posting this rant which replicates the email. Those actions, in addition to your judgements here about (among other things) which authors are allowed to take time away from their stories and which are not, is what is fueling the discussion now taking place.
I probably don't need to point out to you the irony that your email took issue with the fact that my suggestion came to you in a public forum (an entry in all likelihood seen only by the small number of members who chose to click the initial fic search) when your email to me went out automatically to the nearly 700 members of m-mslahsaholics. But in case I do, there it is.
Incidentally, you may find it helpful to know that not everyone gets mailings from Yahoo groups of which they are members. I have many of my groups (including m-m slash) set to "no mail" and check messages only on occasion at the website. So really, your message would not have reached me at all (particularly as you did not send it to me individually at any point), had not several people who got your publically-sent email pointed out that you addressed me and this issue on list.
Though I now know you're not amenable to suggestions in these cases, I'll suggest nonetheless that you contact the moderator of m-mslashaholics and request the removal of both your initial email msg and your ensuing apology to the entire list.